I hope my posts this week on transforming our relationships with the sandpaper people in our lives have challenged you to look at role self in the relationship. It is easy for us to see the faults and flaws of others and know exactly what the need to change but much harder to look at our own faults and flaws elapsed what we need to change.
The sandpaper people in your life neverreally go away. One may leave but is quickly replaced by another. They are in for lives not because we need to change them but because God uses them to change us. It is unlikely the sandpaper person in your life is going to change on their own, so if you don’t change, the relationship won’t change.
When we change our perspective and begin to see the sandpaper people from God’s perspective and not our own, we are seeing them through the eyes of the Holy Spirit that dwells within us. We know we can’t forgive them on our own, but we the power of His Holy Spirit. Loving them with the love of Christ and accepting them for who they are and how they are the way Christ accepted us is only possible with His Spirit working within us. When we change the way we respond from our natural flesh instincts and instead bear the fruit of the Spirit, we are tapping into His power.
Did you notice a recurring theme? Every change we make to improve our relationships with the sandpaper people requires a holy transformation within us whereby we choose to let the Holy Spirit direct and empower us. We are transformed when we plug into the power and choose to listen to the leading of His Spirit because it makes us more like Him!
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.