As a parent, I really like the verses we are going to look at today because they have to do with our children.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
Paul is speaking directly to children in this passage and telling them to obey their parents. Notice the relationship he adds to the equation “in the Lord”. He is reminding them of the relationship they have with the Lord. God put a structure in place for relationships and children are to obey their parents. Just as marriages fall under the relationship of Christ, so do the relationships between parents and children.
12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land theLord your God is giving you.
Paul is quoting from the 10 commandments when he says “honor your father and mother”. The promise is the blessing that comes from honoring your parents. Children are to obey their parents because parents are the head of the children as Christ is the head of the church.
I can remember being frustrated with my parents when they told me to do something and when I asked “why” the only response I got was “because I said so.” As an adult and a parent, I understand what my parents were really saying in that response. They were saying I was to do something or not to do something simply out of obedience and honor. The obedience and honor is because they knew more than I did and they knew what was best for me, just like the Lord does. The “because I said so” is said out of love and a desire to protect.
As a child, I said I would never tell my children “because I said so”. However, as an adult and a parent, I have used those exact words because now I understand the meaning behind them. Is there something you feel the Lord has told you to do or not to do? Are you being obedient and honoring Him? Why or why not? Are you arguing with Him about why you should do something or why you don’t want to do something He is asking of you? Maybe His response might just be “because I said so.”